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Lucky for us we have a brain to come up with words that can slay an enemy, or woo a girl. Some of us don’t have that capability, or assume we don’t and feel terrible for it. I’m here to tell you that everyone has the chance to come up with something witty for almost anything. It’s not that hard really, and after you delve into this over time you’ll come to realize it. Let’s get you started into the world of the witty response.
First up on the list of becoming one with words is not speaking just yet. Say it in your head first. I have a big heart for this topic, because if you speak before you think, you have a far greater chance of saying something completely moronic. I have to tell myself to think before I speak every morning. So the first step. Think of what you’re going to say, then say it. Not that hard right?
I’m Ready for Your Answer
While you are running the sentence through your head, for that split second you must think of what the person you are talking to will respond with. Let’s give you a simple example:Gent: Have you seen Josh today? Recipient’s answer one: Yes. Recipient’s answer Two: No.
The thought process for a closed question like above will give you the smallest possible answers one can respond with. There’s just two, and you can usually come up with a response almost immediately because you thought of the answers before they said one. You most likely do this on a sub-conscious level. Now if you take this on a conscious level, you can be extravagant with your answer on a question that has many possible answers.
Material Gent, in a Material World
When we watch movies or TV show’s we often see people doing/saying something in response to whomever they are talking to with something that blows you away. Be it a magic trick, or a wise joke that makes (most likely a girl) the recipient stand in shock and awe. The key here is that they asked that question before, maybe even hundreds of times. This is why women are on a higher social scale then most men. I’ll give you an example:Gent: How are you today? Girl: Worse, now that you’ve said hello.
Ouch. Guess what. It wasn’t the gent’s fault for asking that question. It was the girl’s response because she’s been asked that before. Quite a few times actually. If you get asked the same question over and over, you’ll have a response like the one above to shut the next person up. They were not expecting that.
The Key to this part is asking something witty that will have a high possibility of answers but on average only get’s one or two. I ask you to task yourself with having a question that is unusual, and asking it to at a minimum of five people. Keep your mind prepared to remember every answer and build a response for each one.Gent: “What’s better: Robertson’s Drive or Rodeo Drive?”
High possibility One:Girl: “Oh Em Gee, Robertson’s Drive.” Gent: “Why? Because Paris Hilton Shop’s there? Or are the stores better?”
High possibility Two:Girl: “Oh Em Gee, Rodeo Drive.” Gent: “I feel the legend it is built up to be is less then what one experiences. Why Rodeo? ”
If you went out and asked this question to more than five girls, I can almost guarantee after five girls you’ll run into a response you’ve already heard. Now you can come up with something witty. You can come up with a response for Robertson that’s better than mine, maybe something about Kitson. Who knows what your brilliance can come up with over time. Now you too can be one of the witty ones in society.
In society today, it’s hard to not advance in any type of way without being aware of your surroundings and being able to respond rapidly. One must have his wit about him at all times. To be at your best, you have to sleep correctly. To say you need less sleep then a normal person, or not need to work out is absurd. Everyone needs sleep, and everyone needs physical activity. We’ll just talk about sleep today.
Pick a time you want to go to sleep and wake up every day. Say eleven PM. Sounds reasonable no? Now pick you wake up time. Let’s say Six AM. That time probably sounds horrible to most people. Yet that gives you seven hours of sleep. It’s been proven in studies that people who have six to seven hours of sleep actually live longer. That’s probably because they wake up early to do a monstrous run or workout. Now if you don’t normally do this, it’s best to force yourself to do it for a minimum of a few weeks to up to three months. Once you have this rhythm down, your body will naturally wake up and feel tired at these times. You might have a time already set, if you do, make sure it’s at least six hours.
Having trouble Falling
Some of us have insomnia, or have trouble falling asleep. There are different things people do to help fall asleep. They read a book, they drink wine, they take Ambien. Granted that these all work, there are some occasions where they give you less sleep for REM. You might be in bed for eight hours, but you could have received only a few hours only to awaken at the beginning of the night. There’s one thing we must remember about sleeping that most people fail to take into account. We’re outdated. When we’re stimulating our minds with television or being on the internet, or playing video games, our minds are on overdrive. Trying to sleep immediately after such a task will keep us awake for hours. Try and keep your brain activity to a minimum starting a few hours before you’re going to sleep
Awakening is Equal to Death
Waking up for most of us is our hardest task for the day. Having a circadian rhythm & clock should help solve this. If you are resetting your clock, you may have trouble waking up at an earlier time. The first thing I recommend is turning on lights and aiming them directly at your eyes for a few moments right when waking up. Even with your eyes closed, the sensation of light will tell the mind that it is morning and time to be awake.
Mental Wake Up
Your mind is also something that needs to be tuned in the morning. Having simple things like different scents like candles, or different types of shampoos will help wake up the mind through the senses of smell. For myself, I have an application on my phone that has me solving twenty to one hundred math problems. Right when I wake up, I look at the blinding light my phone gives off, do some math problems which causes me to be awake in less than five minutes. As much as my pillow argues, I have the sleep thing under control.
Yes sir. Most of us go out, most of us drink, and on a few occasions, we get out of hand. Trust me, I’ve been there before. This discussion will be over different ways for how you can judge your tolerance and how to upkeep your Gent personality without burning the world’s opinion of you to the ground. It’s actually quite simple if you think about it. The first key to it all is preemptive thoughts the daytime before your sessions starts, and how this simple equation works for you.
How Does One React to Each Drink
Tequila, Vodka, Bourbon, Wine and Sake will cause a different reaction. If I have too much Tequila I’ll end up head-butting someone that causes a ruff commotion with me. Vodka sets me straight and I’m able to keep count of what I’m having. Wine gives me a headache, and champagne does nothing but make me joyful. Bourbon and Whiskey will give me a ruff throat, deepening my vocal level if needed to assist in approaching women. I know this because I spend the night with each one of these types. Spending a night with a specific alcohol will teach you what it does for you. It will also teach you your tolerance level for each one. Please also keep in mind that there are two other things to take into account for each night you spend with them. Try to keep the next two parts of the equation equal for each night you spend with each alcohol so you are on a level playing ground for comparison. The first is food.
Eat Before the Kettle Arrives
Is it your office’s Holiday party today? Is it coming up? I had mine just a little while ago, and my office is known for an open bar and an enormous amount of tasks of drinks to consume. I was well prepared for myself by eating heavy before the day begins. Now one might make the assumption that eating heavy the day of drinking will cause bloating and not to look good in that new suit you bought. Yet I believe it to be better to be somewhat bloated than showing everyone what you had eaten for the day near the end of the night. A breakfast bagel, a sandwich for lunch and a small but somewhat heavy item (hot pocket) a few hours before the first Kettle One Greyhound is consumed is a perfect way to keep your tolerance high and prepared.
Workouts Cause Dehydration
We’re mostly water. If you don’t know that you need to Google or Wiki the human body and study up. Water is what we need to survive. If we don’t eat anything for the day, run a few miles and then have a single beer we’ll be infused with the “fun” it gives us much sooner. Make sure your food and your workouts are on a level playing ground. If you have not consumed alcohol for a week due to a workout regiment, you must realize how your body will react to the alcohol.
4 bagels + 7 Kettle-Greyhounds – 20 Min on the Treadmill = Perfection
That’s an example of an equation I know will set me find for the day. Like the way each person has a different skeletal structure, the equation will be different for each person as well. Until you choose to get to know each type of drink, and how you react to it, you may end up with an unpredictable night. I wish you the best of luck on this one, as it takes a few years of practice before you know you’re set straight.
There are many ways to live life. If you read the book The Millionaire Next Door you can find ways to live life worry free when it comes to income. If you read Fight Club you’ll find something completely different. Where I am going with this is that in either case the people involved with these extremely different books have a way they’ve lived life. Some had overall goals to achieve and some had ways to live life to the extreme edge. Living life daily should be without fear. Fear is felt by all and in the same occasions, some will fight the fear and move forward, and others will be trounced by it.
You have three seconds
It’s funny where this information came up. In the Mystery method the three second rule comes with picking up women. I completely believe it, but I feel it has more of a use when it comes to fear. There are two parts to what happens when someone takes longer than three seconds, but we’re going to only discuss the first part. The first part states that if you take longer than three seconds to complete a task, you will be trounced by your fear. If you watch someone on a skydiving plane or bungee jumping, the ones that take less than three seconds will have a better time with dealing with the jump. Those who look down, ask questions all while on the platform will begin to hesitate and doubt their next actions. Try either of these things and you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. If you haven’t done either, trying one will change your life.
Fear is felt by all
I was out with one of my childhood friends in a neighborhood that I found to be, in a lower class level. I had no worries (although we did run in to an unsavory character that tried to start a quarrel) except for when we were presented with approaching a girl. At the time I was ordering drinks, while my friend was just waiting. He left without hesitation and I was left with dealing with a pitcher before I was off to assist. The odd part is that I felt the fear overwhelm me as I approached the table. He left without hesitation. When we spoke later about fear, he also felt it but it did not hit him until just before he began to speak to the unknown girl. We both felt it, but it had a greater chance to grasp hold of us if he had hesitated.
There’s nothing worse than a good car gone wrong. When people take a car, and add so many lights and exterior and interior body parts that just make it a visually loud vehicle. Let’s get a few things straight about keeping your car to the gentleman’s status.
Unless this is a car you specifically have for only car shows and to be kept in the garage there is absolutely no reason to paint it any color buy what comes from the dealership. Painting your car pink, or lime green is simply out of the question. The only thing you’ll end up doing is catching the eye of people who want to catch a cab during the day. At night, you’ll be catching the eye of police officers who are out just to knick people who have fulfilled said characteristics.
Stop putting huge chrome wheels on your car. Like we stated in part one, there should be no reason for you to be driving an SUV unless you constantly have an entourage or family with you. If you do have either of these criteria fulfilled, then you should have no reason to put money in the wheels of the vehicle as it’s purpose is not to impress the men around you. Women, as we’ve stated before, are never attracted to men with big wheels on their car. They don’t even know what a dub is most of the time. This isn’t a knock on them, this in GwR informing you that you’ve been played by mass marketing from the aftermarket auto industry. Getting wheels for your car, on the other hand, is completely fine. The wheels should be tasteful and not be the loudest part of the car. It should only compliment the bodywork of the vehicle.
For vehicles, the only thing one really needs inside their car is a navigation system if one does not come with the vehicle. I recommend having one that is installed in the dash, as having wires hang off of the dash and sticking out of a cluster of items coming out of your electric socket is a complete eyesore. Remember that when nothing appears from the outside of the vehicle, and car visually looks like it came from the manufacturer, there is a significantly less chance of the car being broken into for an IPod, navigation or whatever else you have electronically entertaining you in your vehicle.
That’s all for now.
A gentleman and his ride have to fit well together. A gentleman can drive anything from a Lotus Elise to a classic Mustang. If you’re just starting out in life, and cannot afford a good car, a superb gentleman should never be ashamed to ride public transportation. Jay-z has been known to ride the subways of NY. If a gentleman worth over one-hundred-million dollars can ride public transportation, so can you. I’ve even had the audacity to ride it in Los Angles. Not only did I ride the bus in LA, but also the train from Eastern LA to Western LA. There’s nothing wrong with it. The sole reason why most people don’t take public transportation is for the reason that they feel it’s beneath them. If you don’t have over ten grand for a vehicle, I say save up until you do. I always recommend to pay cash before you finance, but If you can afford it, go for it.
Buying a Brand New Car
Don’t do it. I would recommend purchasing a vehicle that’s at least a few years old before going this route. The twenty-thousand miles that on a vehicle that’s a few years old will give your way more vehicle for your dollar. The only reason someone should go this route is if they can afford an extravagant vehicle. We’re talking Jaguar to Ferrari.
Classic Car Riders
Classic cars are a fantastic route. You can find ones that are rebuilt for fewer than twenty grand without a problem. I feel that if you are to go the classic car route, you should make sure it matches your persona. I think the best example of a classic car & persona match is in spy games with Robert Redford in his classic Porsche. He had the aviators, the suited up style and a never ending gentleman persona.
Sports Cars & Motorcycles
I believe sports cars to be a fit that’s well for the weekend. This is if you have something more then what you daily drive or go on dates with. If you’re a true sports car or moto-head (like me) you’re not buying the car to impress girls. You’re buying the car to ride/drive it. And if you don’t know, I’ll be the first to tell you: Women will never be impressed with the car. They will be impressed if it’s just your weekend car.
I call them generic because they do many of things. They do not catch the police officers eye. They get great gas mileage. They serve no purpose other than to get an individual from one place to the next. Camry, Lexus IS, anything Infiniti, Ford F-150 and the Chevy Tahoe are all cars that fill this category. If you’re one of those people who drive an SUV please have a family or a five person entourage to fulfill the reason as to why you’re driving it. Otherwise if it’s just you and your girl all the time, you get an automatic-black card.
Tomorrow we’ll chat about what a gentleman can do to his vehicle without getting a black card. There are many tasteful ways to change the look and feel of your vehicle, without becoming a show off or a police eye-catcher.
Let us be realistic about this topic. The gentleman and the alpha male is what makes up the male species. The alpha male is our organic origin from when we were once cavemen. At one point we had to fight for what we wanted to eat. The evolution of that portion of us is what makes us lie, cheat, steal, actions of lust and violence. The Gentleman is the growth of our mental capabilities over time. Believe me that a gentleman is purely mental. I know most men find it difficult or uncomfortable to wear a suit every day, or even dress somewhat well for the weekend but that’s not all it takes to be a gentleman. Our mental persona has both the alpha and the gentleman inside. You could say it is a never ending battle between good and bad. Nay I say, I believe that the alpha is as much as being the best gentleman as how we refine ourselves. There are many men out there that live in the timid mentality of life and do not tap into their natural alpha. They have it, but have an ever growing fear that overpowers it, or finds it to be below them. I believe both of these thoughts are incorrect. The fear is not something that we should allow to run our lives. Fear is an emotion that all being are created with. A dog you’ve never encountered before will base its actions off of its own fear. To say that you will not step up to something as small as talking to a women you don’t know (this falls into the zero alpha timid gent) is reducing yourself to the dogs level. When someone feels that all thoughts the come from the alpha of the male are part of the caveman we once were is also a reduction of the possibilities this individual can have. The alpha portion is what gives you the feeling of attraction to another female, what helps you defend your friends and what stops people from walking over you. Of course, the perfect balance between the two is something we take our whole life to figure out. This is just what I have come to realize about it.
Have a horrible weekend? Did you do something you might have received a black card for? No worries my friend. Monday morning you can always wake up early, head to the gym and start over again. Rebirth is small and simple and all it takes is a few things to accomplish.
People always forget to smile. The smile has the power to overcome a bad attitude and helps others with a bad attitude. We’ve all heard it, but I’m the type that is powered by it. If you’re having trouble with it, try and find funny things to watch to help you laugh. There’s websites with clips from humorous TV shows and other crazy things you can find on Youtube. Find your way, find things to power it and never forget to smile.
Get to the freaking gym people. I know you don’t want to, you don’t need it, you look amazing, but you need it for a true rebirth. I recommend hoping on the stair stepper for twenty minutes. Not the fake one, but the one with real steps. It’s the best start. Endorphins are released when you work out and it totally helps with creating a good and happy vibe.
Listen, it’s really easy to wear a t-shirt. It’s easy to throw on board shorts and sandals. Anyone can do it. Ironing a shirt, putting on dress shoes, shaving, taking a shower (post gym especially) are small things that might take a few minutes longer in your morning, but are always received better by those around you.
Do something more
If you’re going to school, it’s a bit early for you, but if you’re not and you’re doing the nine to five, start something new. Start a hobby, a new side business or a sport. It’s easy to end up on a sofa when you get home every day. If you’re going to respond to me that it costs too much to have a hobby, then start a way to make additional income.
That’s it for today. I hope everyone had a fantastic weekend. It is not even noon for me and I am already feeling the good vibe of a perfect Monday morning. I hope you can do the same. Since this is going out on a Monday, Make your rebirth tomorrow. We won’t hold it against you.
There is the reserved type of gentleman. This personality type is quite unique in how he is perceived to the outside world. Women find him to either be completely intriguing or creepy in the beginning, but almost always, if the gent with this personality paces himself, a girl will almost always find him attractive. This personality type isn’t for everyone. Don’t know the type? Let’s cover the ones you know.
James bond has a personality type to not divulge any information to the girls he’s with. He only says just enough to create a conversation. Yes I know that for the most part the movies are fake but it’s not like women don’t find him attractive. The verbal is where the reserved part of the personality comes in. The defining point is when you first meet them. They’ll only speak when requested, especially in groups, and will keep all remarks and comments to a complete minimum unless needed. If you watch him in the movies, he’s not super talkative, not chatting up a storm with anyone, and never talks about where he came from, and not even to the girls he’s with. The mystery is what makes the reserved gentleman.
You can recognize a reserved gentleman when you first meet them, they are of coursed suited to be one, clean and respectable. All the physical categories are cleaned up but when requested for information they keep to themselves. When singling out the reserved gent is where they can differ. Some may spill their guts at that moment, creating an instant bond type of situation. This can either explode in their face or truly create the bond they were looking for. Other reserved gentleman might give exactly what is requested from them. This approach keeps them reserved because they aren’t telling their life story and inundating them with information. The last type is the type of gent who doesn’t share the information. A simple shrug or a quick change of subject is the response one only gets from them. For girls this can only last for some time before they get bored, unless they dig the mysterious type.
The gentleman needs to infuse some asshole into his personality. The world is now covered with six-billion people. The gentleman originally was noticed when he had a very kind and giving persona. People of today are inundated with this kindness, and are grown to be taught to walk over them to advance. It does seem like a negative look on life, but it’s the asshole that helps an individual advance in life. It’s the amount a person has that is small enough to be known as a gent, or overdosed with it to be known as an asshole. Let’s look at yesterday’s situations and the perfect gent, who has some a small percentage of asshole in his personality.
In the situation of advancement or review, the gentleman has to be able to read who he’s being reviewed by. Is this individual honest? Will they fight for the gentleman? Or are they just getting pushed over? The gentleman must gauge and advance accordingly. If it’s someone that gets pushed over and is not fighting for the gent, he needs to push back to an equal or greater amount to receive what is rightfully his. The push back does not need to be vulgar or overwhelming. A written document or a persuasive speech to the reviewer to ask for more is all he needs to do to receive what is rightfully his. If it doesn’t come to him, and he is worth more, it can be given to him elsewhere, and he needs to go find it.
Meeting a 10/10 girl
This section can literally go on for days. For today, the most i would say is that a perfect gentleman today needs to know when he’s going to or already is being walked on or over. The perfect ten isn’t going to notice you when you open the door, so you’re going to have to speak up and be a hair pushy. Accept rejection gracefully. Think of it as sales. More often then not, the statistics tend to be greater on rejection. Just remember for those No’s there’s a Yes coming.
The girl friends
Watch out for these girls. They are from the current time, and if they are strong willed, they won’t be afraid to burn you. A girl’s guy friends are always replaceable to them. They get approached more often then not, and can, at any given point, put a man in their friend zone. If you decide to trust them you must be prepared for it to be leaked to a circle of friends. It doesn’t matter how much she tells you, and the perfect gent won’t share that secret. And they know that. That’s what will give them the upper hand in the friendship. Hence the advice of defense.