For every guy out there who’s clearly not a gent, there’s a girl that parallels him. Don’t be distraught when you run into these girls. For the most part, there will be and is no reason to have these girls in your life. They are waste of time. I’ve run into my fare share of them over my short life so far. They sometimes may be good looking, the sometimes may be a different person when you first meet them, and then show their true colors to you. Know when to read these girls and extricate them from your life. Keeping a positive mentality on life can dwindle with individuals like this.

The approach

One of my previous interactions with a girl in this category was started off with a problem. They were spouting about a break up. I’m a problem solver so I got pulled in, not to give advice as most men do, but to help give perspective as to the guy’s thought process. They smile, ask when I’m drinking while drinking water. A clear sign they just want a drink. I knew I was with one of these girls for the reason that it would be a bad person to have in my life for the reason that when I spoke, she clearly wasn’t listening. If this EVER happens to you, never let it slide. The moment they ask a question, and then leave your answer mid sentence, they have a different end goal. Don’t interact with them unless you call them out on this. Turn your 25% asshole up in this situation if you want to interact with them. They brought their asshole with them, so to not bring yours is detrimental like a knife in a gun fight.

The Other Guy is Who I Want

If you’re interacting with a girl, and after a little while she starts to spout off about another guy, eject yourself. If she’s not a girl that you feel falls under this category, then you missed a step. Let’s be clear here, you’ve interacted with her for a certain time period and she chose to bring up a subject like that. It means you missed the social hook point. I only say this because she would be more interesting in you if you made yourself more interesting, or you said something to make yourself unattractive.

No, Seriously, Call me One

There are girls out there that want to be belittled, sworn at, mistreated and physically abused. I’ve met a couple. They are rare, and need to be left for the other guys. The only people that should fix these girls are professionals. They obviously have a problem that they need to deal with. I remember the last one I ran into, and she was interested in a guy who didn’t care about her, and then began to badger me about why people don’t respect her. The 25% wanted to say something about her IQ level, but the gent in me just ejected myself from the establishment. If she’s there, it says something about her place of choice, and the company she’s interested in.

GwR

In my quest to be the best source of information for the gentlemen in the world, I had to see for myself if there was anything like it across our great internet. Surely, there must be websites that talk about how to be a gentleman, or a consolidation if you will, of where to go when one wants to better himself.

This website was one of the first one’s I ran into on my quest. Of course my first stop was the Wikipedia page, but we can write about that later. The one below seems to me, in a few words, out dated. Not only from a web perspective, but from an information base on how to become a better gentleman. Most of the quotes are from the 1800’s. That doesn’t seem right to me. Upon further research, it ended up being a website for Vintage Dance & History for Southern California. I guess I’m still up on the list of where to go. Have fun and check it out when you’re done here.

On delicious, the first link one gets is “50 Rules To Being A Gentleman – KING-mag.com.” If you read the 50 rules, and are anything close to a gentleman, you’ll rename the list in your head to something like “How to not be a complete douche-bag.” Just have a gander when you get a chance and you’ll see things like, “don’t forget to iron your shirt” or (number one) “Don’t have kids until you’re 30.” I didn’t know age requirement for a reproductive male was a descriptive point in being a gentleman.

Askmen.com has one of the best pages on being a gentleman. It’s by far a superior list then the one’s we’ve written about. These things when not done don’t usually grant you a black card, but if done, they set you on a fast ticket to receiving a white card. Things like removing your hat indoors and giving your arm to a girl even when you’re not on a date really sets you apart. This would be a good list to add to your lifestyle if you feel something on it is missing.

Send some links my way if you find something along the same category, I’d love to see what you find.

GwR

Let us be realistic about this topic. The gentleman and the alpha male is what makes up the male species. The alpha male is our organic origin from when we were once cavemen. At one point we had to fight for what we wanted to eat. The evolution of that portion of us is what makes us lie, cheat, steal, actions of lust and violence. The Gentleman is the growth of our mental capabilities over time. Believe me that a gentleman is purely mental. I know most men find it difficult or uncomfortable to wear a suit every day, or even dress somewhat well for the weekend but that’s not all it takes to be a gentleman. Our mental persona has both the alpha and the gentleman inside. You could say it is a never ending battle between good and bad. Nay I say, I believe that the alpha is as much as being the best gentleman as how we refine ourselves. There are many men out there that live in the timid mentality of life and do not tap into their natural alpha. They have it, but have an ever growing fear that overpowers it, or finds it to be below them. I believe both of these thoughts are incorrect. The fear is not something that we should allow to run our lives. Fear is an emotion that all being are created with. A dog you’ve never encountered before will base its actions off of its own fear. To say that you will not step up to something as small as talking to a women you don’t know (this falls into the zero alpha timid gent) is reducing yourself to the dogs level. When someone feels that all thoughts the come from the alpha of the male are part of the caveman we once were is also a reduction of the possibilities this individual can have. The alpha portion is what gives you the feeling of attraction to another female, what helps you defend your friends and what stops people from walking over you. Of course, the perfect balance between the two is something we take our whole life to figure out. This is just what I have come to realize about it.