The close talker, the extremely arrogant approach at the bar (including the arm grab), the dance floor re-re-re-re-re-approach-denial and the bad breath assassin are all qualifiers for the personal space black card. Look buddy, we all love you, but if you don’t brush your teeth, floss or use mouth wash, and talk to people four inches from their face, you’re bound to have a stigma attached to you. Let’s cover some things to remember with personal space.

You’ll Need Help

If you get black carded for personal space, you’ll need the help of those who you interact with to help you fix this flaw. I know a lot of people in my life that have a problem with understanding personal space. Usually it has to do with their extreme appreciation for the topic or the people they are talking to. You either need to be able to read the face of people you’re interacting with, or have them push you back a notch. I myself have flagged myself for this (well before I built this website). It’s painful when you realize that something as trivial as this can be detrimental to how you are perceived or in making new friends and companions.

Check the B with your Square

A true gentleman will have a way to check their breath. If you’re someone that is having trouble or working on personal space, you need to take a special effort with this. A pocket square is a way for you to be able to close the outside air from your mouth and inhale it with your nose. I know most of the world will find this part to be weird, but believe me when I say there are many people out there who have no idea they can kill small rodents with their bad breath.

Let Go OF THE ARM

Look dude, if a girl says no; don’t belittle yourself by asking again with some extreme persistence. It’s not attractive, something a gentleman never does, and lowers your social value. If you reach the point where you grab her arm to make sure you’re listening to her, you’re on the extreme end of fail. I’ve seen this happen to one of my girlfriends and the first though that went through my head was, kill. Gent’s usually don’t have that thought.

Re-re-re-re-re-approach-rejection = Denied.

It’s funny how much I run into this with my girlfriends. Yes, I have a lot of them. The attractive will totally agree on this topic. Men have trouble understanding when a girl doesn’t want to dance with them. You should only need one rejection and move on to the next girl on the dance floor. Guess what dude, some girls are actually at the club to dance. First off, you’re approaching a girl on the dance floor, so on a scale of one to ten you’re a unicorn. Sure you’re good looking, but you’re only good for the moment, and then people get over you. If a girl rejects you on the dance floor, there is for the most part, at least twenty other girls on the dance floor. So move on as if the rejection was nothing more than a miscommunication and move on to the next girl.

GwR