She’s gorgeous and sitting at the bar facing out with a drink in hand. All the guys look at her as she smiles and has her girlfriends on either side of her. They talk here and there but don’t say much due to the loud noise of the club. She notices all the guys checking her out, but doesn’t take interest in any of them. She humbly waits for someone to talk to her that she has hopes to be good looking and interesting.

He’s standing with a group of his friends next to the dance floor not too far from our girl at the bar. His good looks capture the glances of girls in the room. He’s been getting it for so long that he doesn’t even notice it happening. All of his ex’s have approached him in the past and he hasn’t had the need to work hard to meet anyone in his life. They approach him.

They do happen to notice each other. They keep exchanging glances waiting for either to make the approach. Fifteen minutes go by and the looks become more frequent but still nothing happens. Our girl’s friends notice her and make it more obvious for him to make the approach. His guy friends talk about how awesome he is that a hot girl is checking him out. An hour goes by and they pass each other without saying one word.

These ten’s will never truly meet because of blatant stupidity. Our guy doesn’t want to do the work and is being blocked by his fear, although he will deny it. The girl won’t make the approach because she plays by the rules. Plus she gets approached over five times a day so to ask her to approach him is completely absurd. Sadly they leave the club with someone else who approaches them both even though they both knew who they wanted to leave with.

It’s 2008 and, we the gentlemen of the world know, the times have changed. If are going to debate if we pay the bill on a date, if we are going to debate if women and men are to be paid equally in an office, if we are to debate if the women and men have a specific role at home; we say we should be equal. So in this one case, in this one situation in life, I’d black card both of them. This would probably be the one time I’d get mad at a girl for not doing something about it. You both can face rejection, but until you actually get rejected or accepted, you’ll just be a failure. We’ve all been here. I debate creating a specific page of men who never approached girls even though she gave him all the signs in the world for him to say hello. Just make the approach or you’ll just be some guy/girl who settled on something that came to you.

GwR