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The Fireman and the Burn Victim

There’s a type of relationship out there that I’m all too familiar with. The Fireman and the burn victim is what I like to call it. The Burn Victim is someone that has a completely unstable portion of their life that is giving them a third degree. Sure none of us are perfect, but there’s one outstanding issue that might be taking a majority of the Burn Victim’s mental thought process. The relationship doesn’t have to be limited a boy and a girl dating. I know of many relationships where there are best friends where one is a fireman and the other is the burn victim (BV). They’ll continue on to bear this mental burning scar until they meet a fireman. Lucky for them, when it comes to the exit of the relationship, the only one to be burned is the fireman.

Upon entering the relationship, the fireman may not be able to tell if the person they are adding to their life is an actual burn victim. Scars run deep, and most of the time they are covered in bandage so that it’s not easily visible. Sometimes it’s the love blinders (that’s a whole new topic) and sometimes it’s just from being the first time with a BV.

First Sight

The first sign is usually quite small, hand passing over the flame, usually by the BV testing to see how the fireman’s water level is. It tests the relationship between the two and defines how they move forward. If the fireman catches wind of the fire and knows the path he must go, he may bow out. If he stays, the BV views him in two ways. The fireman will save the BV and they will continue on to tell a true story of repair through the hard work of the fireman. Or the fireman will fix the burn, prepping the BV to live better post relationship.

Hindsight is Always Perfect

After the burn is fully shown to the fireman, he/she has the choice to move forward or bow out. This has the possibility of happening before or after the BV’s fully healed. I’ve had many a relationships in the past where I’ve bowed out after my BV has healed. Oddly enough, I find them to be some of the few people in the world who don’t hate me in the slightest. They’ll vouch for me in every way and I cherish the time I spent with them, with the exception of one small detail; I am burnt out.

I will catch wind of a BV extremely fast and bow out almost immediately. I’ll only move forward with someone new in my life knowing that they are either healed, or were never burned before. I do feel quite awful from the fact that they see me as their fireman, but I simply don’t have the energy to heal another person. If you feel like I’m not in the right path I’ll only tell you one reply. If I am presented to the God I believe in, in the afterlife, I’ll only really want his opinion. He was the one that put all the BV’s before me. When was your last BV?

GwR

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